How many of you suffer from depression/negativity? - ForumIAS

How many of you suffer from depression/negativity?

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Arsenesaid

Everyone, how about we share the things that make the days we feel down, a little bit better? 

WHAT DO YOU GUYS DO TO CHEER UP WHEN YOU FEEL SAD?

Two words - Fooood. Surprised no one mentioning this cute thing :/

And of course other being football. 

Bhai. Food, Football and Arsene Wenger here as well. 

You're my brother from another mother. 

Villanelle,Arsene
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Don't worry about disturbing people. I'm confident football comes before Civil Services Prep for most of us who are on that thread. 

I never visit the Daily Routine thread. Those posts are intimidating. If I start counting the number of hours I put in on a daily basis, I'd be depressed for at least 15 days every month! :p

#Football_Thread_Will_Live

Whenever I get sad watching Arsenal’s condition, I would shut it and watch 2002-03 till 2006-07 season documentaries. It features highlights of every match Arsenal played. Don’t remember the name of this documentary but it is such a gem. I get goosebumps watching them even now. Quality was at its peak before football became a commodity 

AzadHindFauz,SergioRamos
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Everyone, how about we share the things that make the days we feel down, a little bit better? 

WHAT DO YOU GUYS DO TO CHEER UP WHEN YOU FEEL SAD?

I try to look at things more objectively. Talking with my girlfriend and family helps. Sometimes if its too much I take a break of a couple of days and pursue my hobbies (books, guitar, tv shows). I also read articles from the site below sometimes. Really good content.  

https://psyche.co/

Just_restless,Villanelle
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Then, why don't you share some good clips on our football thread?

Man, I love how you nourish that thread by luring people there .😂 

Stay away from me, you Patootie! 

Just_restless,
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Arsenesaid

@AzadHindFauz I just felt people here are too busy and they study too much, football clips would just be an added distraction. Just last week the Daily Routine thread people were going absolutely berserk! 

I do have some goosebump inducing compilations saved though, even if Arsenal almost never feature in them I think you’ll like them :P


Don't worry about disturbing people. I'm confident football comes before Civil Services Prep for most of us who are on that thread. 

I never visit the Daily Routine thread. Those posts are intimidating. If I start counting the number of hours I put in on a daily basis, I'd be depressed for at least 15 days every month! :p

#Football_Thread_Will_Live

Whenever I get sad watching Arsenal’s condition I would shut it and watch 2002-03 till 2006-07 season documentaries featuring highlights of every match Arsenal played. Don’t remember the name of this documentary but it is such a gem. I get goosebumps watching them even now.  Quality at its peak. 

The documentary begins with this line-

"Played 38, won 26, drew 12, lost exactly NONE. "

Just_restless,Arsene
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Forum pe logo mujhe Dekhte hi trigger ho jate. Mujhe lagta hai ki Sanyas lena chahiye forum se. 

5-6 log jaise@AzadHindFauz @thesleepyhead @SergioRamos @sstarrr @peterparker @whatonly @D503    are very abusive and with no rational thinking @root @Neyawn. Please take note. 

mat maan maa ch@da meme template with video reference

@Patootie you have great advices, please stay away from "the people". ( I am no one to advice you but you know)

@sjerngal @DeekshitaP @kohliwag great people ( not juding anyone here but atleast they are somewhat rational)

Have been in contact of few who are great and objective on Tg too. 

If anyone wants to contact me at telegram - @AshGreninja19



Aapko lagta hai na sanyas le lena chayeih forum se. Le Liliye jitna jaldi ho sake utna :)

Bye Ji. 

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The documentary begins with this line-

"Played 38, won 26, drew 12, lost exactly NONE. "

Just with this line, I’m always off to a good sleep :)

Yea call me dreamy, delusional, and whatnot but nothing can beat this. Every year any one team wins the League but only one among them is special remembered throughout the history (though it’s been long since then) Cheers!!

AzadHindFauz,KingSlayer23and1 otherslike this
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Diagnosed with clinical depression and taking SSRIs since 2018. I hope none of you has to go through this. 

Jo sajjan ridicule kar rahe, ishwar se prarthna hai aapko sad-buddhi de. 🙏

Aurora,Just_restlessand13 otherslike this
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I really believe and have honestly come across people who act in a certain way to get attention because they themselves are undergoing some sort of crisis. Getting attention helps them forget about their issues for sometime. However, they often forget how their behavior can mess up others head. 

Since this is an open community it is probably not possible to stop people from talking in inappropriate way. However, I think if those comments are not replied to and ignored, maybe the other person will try to find peace somewhere else, and let forum folks live peacefully. Often, not paying attention helps.

Hear hear 


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Everyone, how about we share the things that make the days we feel down, a little bit better? 

WHAT DO YOU GUYS DO TO CHEER UP WHEN YOU FEEL SAD?

A good  workout to pump that dopamine up 


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Just_restless,Villanelle
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@AzadHindFauz I just felt people here are too busy and they study too much, football clips would just be an added distraction. Just last week the Daily Routine thread people were going absolutely berserk! 

I do have some goosebump inducing compilations saved though, even if Arsenal almost never feature in them I think you’ll like them :P


Don't worry about disturbing people. I'm confident football comes before Civil Services Prep for most of us who are on that thread. 

I never visit the Daily Routine thread. Those posts are intimidating. If I start counting the number of hours I put in on a daily basis, I'd be depressed for at least 15 days every month! :p

#Football_Thread_Will_Live

Football- CS prep - Madrid 

in that order :P 


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AzadHindFauz,Only Sith Deals in Absoluteand1 otherslike this
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Everyone, how about we share the things that make the days we feel down, a little bit better? 

WHAT DO YOU GUYS DO TO CHEER UP WHEN YOU FEEL SAD?

Absolutely love cooking, I’ve turned my unhealthy relationship with food into something positive. So I find a recipe and just zone out to it. Besides that running, working out, journaling, painting, and of course, the one and only mental health heroes BTS also help me a lot when I feel down.

Just_restless,Villanelle
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Speak to friends/family. Go to my super special stash of quotes/poems/written stuff. Sometimes I watch episodes of shows, like parks and rec… shocking I know :p I also daydream, sometimes with spoken dialogues :p

What do you do?

Depends. When it’s just meh types days - I resort to pop culture or go for a coffee with a friend and wait for it to pass. 

When I’m really down, I need mom (so very adult of me I know). Just talking to her - like really break into an hour long conversations - solves everything. She works full time and is probably the busiest person I’ll ever know in terms the amount of work has to get done in a day, yet she’s the one who makes time for me the most :’) Talking to her puts everything into perspective. 

Wholesome like whole wheat bread!

Villanelle,
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Hey friends, quick question. How do you get to enjoying the small victories and celebrating your wins? I honesty can’t truly enjoy my wins however small or significant, because I’m either afraid that they wont last, or I struggle to make them feel significant for me. For a quick example: I’m not claiming to be the perfect aspirant or anything, in fact far from it, but i feel this attempt so far I’ve been pretty good with my note making/ studies in general, in two days I’m about to complete my ethics. In comparison last year, i finished my first revision of paper 4 the week before mains began (hangs head in shame) and yet I struggle to appreciate how much better positioned I am this year. Any help would be appreciated.
Just_restless,Villanelleand3 otherslike this
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Hey friends, quick question. How do you get to enjoying the small victories and celebrating your wins? I honesty can’t truly enjoy my wins however small or significant, because I’m either afraid that they wont last, or I struggle to make them feel significant for me. For a quick example: I’m not claiming to be the perfect aspirant or anything, in fact far from it, but i feel this attempt so far I’ve been pretty good with my note making/ studies in general, in two days I’m about to complete my ethics. In comparison last year, i finished my first revision of paper 4 the week before mains began (hangs head in shame) and yet I struggle to appreciate how much better positioned I am this year. Any help would be appreciated.

I cannot enjoy small victories or relish my achievements regarding completion of the syllabus as such. I always feel lacking. 

Somehow, I always end up finding someone who has done better work than me. 

I guess I'm similarly placed as you here. Unable to appreciate ourselves! :D

Villanelle,KingSlayer23and9 otherslike this
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@AzadHindFauz I just felt people here are too busy and they study too much, football clips would just be an added distraction. Just last week the Daily Routine thread people were going absolutely berserk! 

I do have some goosebump inducing compilations saved though, even if Arsenal almost never feature in them I think you’ll like them :P


Don't worry about disturbing people. I'm confident football comes before Civil Services Prep for most of us who are on that thread. 

I never visit the Daily Routine thread. Those posts are intimidating. If I start counting the number of hours I put in on a daily basis, I'd be depressed for at least 15 days every month! :p

#Football_Thread_Will_Live

Football- CS prep - Madrid 

in that order :P 

Kya aap Wales se aaye hain? :P

sbhati,Archand
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dilli se hu *insert usual slur* ;)



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Hey friends, quick question. How do you get to enjoying the small victories and celebrating your wins? I honesty can’t truly enjoy my wins however small or significant, because I’m either afraid that they wont last, or I struggle to make them feel significant for me. For a quick example: I’m not claiming to be the perfect aspirant or anything, in fact far from it, but i feel this attempt so far I’ve been pretty good with my note making/ studies in general, in two days I’m about to complete my ethics. In comparison last year, i finished my first revision of paper 4 the week before mains began (hangs head in shame) and yet I struggle to appreciate how much better positioned I am this year. Any help would be appreciated.

Don't think of it as celebrating your wins, but think of it as celebrating progress. Convince yourself that these actions (in our case studying and completing a chapter or whatever) is moving you closer to your goal. If we are convinced our actions are creating progress, then we are much more motivated to do it. There was a study done (I can't remember the exact details) where people were made to run. One group was made to run but their scenery wouldn't change so essentially they wouldn't "see" any progress while the other group that was made to run would see the scenery change so they would feel they were making some progress. The second group ran longer than the first group. I'll try to see if I can find the link to this study.

D503,Villanelleand3 otherslike this
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Hey friends, quick question. How do you get to enjoying the small victories and celebrating your wins? I honesty can’t truly enjoy my wins however small or significant, because I’m either afraid that they wont last, or I struggle to make them feel significant for me. For a quick example: I’m not claiming to be the perfect aspirant or anything, in fact far from it, but i feel this attempt so far I’ve been pretty good with my note making/ studies in general, in two days I’m about to complete my ethics. In comparison last year, i finished my first revision of paper 4 the week before mains began (hangs head in shame) and yet I struggle to appreciate how much better positioned I am this year. Any help would be appreciated.

I cannot enjoy small victories or relish my achievements regarding completion of the syllabus as such. I always feel lacking. 

Somehow, I always end up finding someone who has done better work than me. 

I guess I'm similarly placed as you here. Unable to appreciate ourselves! :D

“When you don’t need others to sabotage you because you’re perfectly capable of doing it to yourself” life. 🙃

Just_restless,AJ_and6 otherslike this
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Hey friends, quick question. How do you get to enjoying the small victories and celebrating your wins? I honesty can’t truly enjoy my wins however small or significant, because I’m either afraid that they wont last, or I struggle to make them feel significant for me. For a quick example: I’m not claiming to be the perfect aspirant or anything, in fact far from it, but i feel this attempt so far I’ve been pretty good with my note making/ studies in general, in two days I’m about to complete my ethics. In comparison last year, i finished my first revision of paper 4 the week before mains began (hangs head in shame) and yet I struggle to appreciate how much better positioned I am this year. Any help would be appreciated.

Don't think of it as celebrating your wins, but think of it as celebrating progress. Convince yourself that these actions (in our case studying and completing a chapter or whatever) is moving you closer to your goal. If we are convinced our actions are creating progress, then we are much more motivated to do it. There was a study done (I can't remember the exact details) where people were made to run. One group was made to run but their scenery wouldn't change so essentially they wouldn't "see" any progress while the other group that was made to run would see the scenery change so they would feel they were making some progress. The second group ran longer than the first group. I'll try to see if I can find the link to this study.

I had a massive existential voice note rant (I record the more memorable ones for later perusal) last night, where I realised that I struggle with finding purpose. I’m naturally one of those people who needs a tangible goal to work towards, a very “eyes-on-the-prize” mentality, but throughout this journey I’ve been feeling very “untethered” because these studies are so contrary to my inner wiring. I feel I’m filling my days with work, but not with purpose because somewhere in the back of my mind, I’m afraid if I search for a purpose, I won’t find anything, or realise just how futile chasing after the elusive victory is. 


I’m very tempted to delete this entire exposé, but I’m trying this thing where I push myself to accept my vulnerabilities and showcase them to the world. Being a control freak who likes to maintain the illusion of “I have everything under control. You don’t need to worry about me” this is immensely scary.

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