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How many of you suffer from depression/negativity?

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I am not sure why many people haven't mentioned this beautiful thing called "meditation". In a world full of chaos it is the only thing that keeps me sane.

I’ve always wanted to meditate but I’m too distracted to really sit and meditate. My mind wanders constantly. Also I’m not sure I truly understand what one is supposed to do while meditating.

SergioRamos,peterparkerand2 otherslike this
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I am not sure why many people haven't mentioned this beautiful thing called "meditation". In a world full of chaos it is the only thing that keeps me sane.

I’ve always wanted to meditate but I’m too distracted to really sit and meditate. My mind wanders constantly. Also I’m not sure I truly understand what one is supposed to do while meditating.

Exactly what I have on my mind!! 

THE_MECHANIC,
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I am not sure why many people haven't mentioned this beautiful thing called "meditation". In a world full of chaos it is the only thing that keeps me sane.

I’ve always wanted to meditate but I’m too distracted to really sit and meditate. My mind wanders constantly. Also I’m not sure I truly understand what one is supposed to do while meditating.

Actually that's a big misconception just sit at your study table with your eyes closed and observe your breath without trying to control it for 5 minutes. It will feel like you had a nice quick power nap.


chamomile,gaugau24
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I am not sure why many people haven't mentioned this beautiful thing called "meditation". In a world full of chaos it is the only thing that keeps me sane.

I’ve always wanted to meditate but I’m too distracted to really sit and meditate. My mind wanders constantly. Also I’m not sure I truly understand what one is supposed to do while meditating.

Actually that's a big misconception just sit at your study table with your eyes closed and observe your breath without trying to control it for 5 minutes. It will feel like you had a nice quick power nap.


Bhai yeh to roz raat ko krte h 😅😅

gaugau24,
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@LetsGetThisBread Try mindfulness meditation. The basic idea is not to try and restrict your thoughts but to observe them and let them pass without indulging in them or attaching any value/emotions to them. It's very calming. :)


chamomile,KingSlayer23and3 otherslike this
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I am not sure why many people haven't mentioned this beautiful thing called "meditation". In a world full of chaos it is the only thing that keeps me sane.

I’ve always wanted to meditate but I’m too distracted to really sit and meditate. My mind wanders constantly. Also I’m not sure I truly understand what one is supposed to do while meditating.

Feel that. Everyone struggles with that in the beginning I guess. However, that is the point of whole exercise. It is supposed to train you to control your thoughts and not let your mind veer away. You focus on your breathing, minor sounds and smells around you and don't allow your mind to focus on anything other than that. Initially, while meditating I had this very strong urge to move physically or just itch anywhere. Controlling it is difficult but you slowly get better at it. This is how it helps you improve your concentration- not letting you mind focus on immaterial things. 

My interpretation of it. Someone may explain it better. I hope it was not gibberish and I made some sense. 

chamomile,
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All these meditation tips are making me want to try it out for earnest. Is there some set time you guys would recommend I start with? Do you meditate when you feel overwhelmed, or is it built into your daily routine? Do you do it on an “as and when” basis or do you do it daily?
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All these meditation tips are making me want to try it out for earnest. Is there some set time you guys would recommend I start with? Do you meditate when you feel overwhelmed, or is it built into your daily routine? Do you do it on an “as and when” basis or do you do it daily?

Early in the morning before coffee or late in the night right before sleep works well for me. You may want to try and see how it goes for you. 

Not promoting but app called headspace helped me. Try kar sakte ho. First 10 session free deta hai. 

BurtMacklin_FBI,Patootie
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@LetsGetThisBread I started with 5- 10 minutes guided meditations available on youtube and some apps such as Headspace. Its become a regular thing for me now as in I do it every alternate day if not everyday. 

Initially, I didn't really understand the way its benefitting me but being patient has been the key. Journaling and Mindfulness have been the two pillars to deal with my anxiety and stress. They help to understand my own thoughts  and get rid of the negative ones because more often than not the negative thoughts are just blank statements like "I am not good at this" or "I wont succeed" without any substantial content to them. So when I could sit and observe these without getting overwhelmed, it helped me immensely in dealing with them. It has also just helped me understand myself better - a process which just paused since a few years thanks to the constant distraction of mobile phones and social media. 

Sending you hugs and positivity.


chamomile,KingSlayer23and6 otherslike this
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I am not sure why many people haven't mentioned this beautiful thing called "meditation". In a world full of chaos it is the only thing that keeps me sane.

I’ve always wanted to meditate but I’m too distracted to really sit and meditate. My mind wanders constantly. Also I’m not sure I truly understand what one is supposed to do while meditating.

Actually that's a big misconception just sit at your study table with your eyes closed and observe your breath without trying to control it for 5 minutes. It will feel like you had a nice quick power nap.


Bhai yeh to roz raat ko krte h 😅😅

Krte ho but kya or kyu krte ho ye bhi to smjhna chahiye.

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I am not sure why many people haven't mentioned this beautiful thing called "meditation". In a world full of chaos it is the only thing that keeps me sane.

I’ve always wanted to meditate but I’m too distracted to really sit and meditate. My mind wanders constantly. Also I’m not sure I truly understand what one is supposed to do while meditating.

Actually that's a big misconception just sit at your study table with your eyes closed and observe your breath without trying to control it for 5 minutes. It will feel like you had a nice quick power nap.


Bhai yeh to roz raat ko krte h 😅😅

Krte ho but kya or kyu krte ho ye bhi to smjhna chahiye.

Is sleeping 😴😴 a kind of meditation ??

HeNeArKr,
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@whatonly @LetsGetThisBread  Starmarked your comments. Thank you so much. 

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I have been doing meditation only for a month but this is how I understand it. Please do enlighten me if I am wrong somewhere. I think the aim is to cultivate a habit of non-judgmental awareness. I am reading “Mindfulness in Plain English” by Bhante Gunaratana and he puts it thus. We have a tendency to classify all our experiences or sensations as good, bad or neutral. The one’s we classify as good, we try to hold on to them. But, nothing in life remains the same for long (momentariness of everything is a core idea of Buddhism as philosophy optional students would know). The sensations we classify as bad, we try to run away from them. But then we have a limited control over our environment and circumstances. The sensations we classify as neutral, we simply ignore them. But majority of our experiences fall into this category. So we end up ignoring 90% of our experience and then we find life monotonous and joyless. All this generates a kind of existential angst. Hence, the purpose is to cultivate awareness and do this without classifying and judging everything. We start with focusing on our breath because this helps steady our mind (In Yoga philosophy also, yoga is defined as “Chitta-vritti-nirodha” or cessation of modification of chitta or simply cessation of restlessness of mind). Then we move on to focusing on our bodily sensations and our environment and so forth. But all this applies to Vipasana or insight meditation only, which I think is the more popular form. There are other forms as well but I don’t much about them.
chamomile,Serendipityand2 otherslike this
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All these meditation tips are making me want to try it out for earnest. Is there some set time you guys would recommend I start with? Do you meditate when you feel overwhelmed, or is it built into your daily routine? Do you do it on an “as and when” basis or do you do it daily?

Early in the morning before coffee or late in the night right before sleep works well for me. You may want to try and see how it goes for you. 

Not promoting but app called headspace helped me. Try kar sakte ho. First 10 session free deta hai. 

Could you please walk us through the app? I got its subscription in the Times Prime package, but I couldn't understand the app properly. 

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All these meditation tips are making me want to try it out for earnest. Is there some set time you guys would recommend I start with? Do you meditate when you feel overwhelmed, or is it built into your daily routine? Do you do it on an “as and when” basis or do you do it daily?

Early in the morning before coffee or late in the night right before sleep works well for me. You may want to try and see how it goes for you. 

Not promoting but app called headspace helped me. Try kar sakte ho. First 10 session free deta hai. 

Could you please walk us through the app? I got its subscription in the Times Prime package, but I couldn't understand the app properly. 

Not sure if qualified to do that. I use the free version only by recycling basic free sessions. Let me try. It has recorded audios under 4 categories:

i) Meditation- Guided sessions where you can choose between male/female voice and how long you want to meditate (3-20 minutes).

ii) Sleep- Soothing sounds for sleeping like rains, bird chirps and stories. 

iii) Move- Workout videos like yoga, cardio and stretching.

iv) Focus- Motivational/mood elevating kinda stuff and even some of Zimmer's tracks. 

chamomile,AzadHindFauz
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@root @Neyawn Can we please ban such non-sensical idiots from the community?

@root @Neyawn can we have a “be respectful, be nice” policy like Reddit? 

These sort of comments which the user in question has been making for the past few weeks are of course irritating, gauging from the replies they have gotten, but it could be much worse. It could be doing irreparable harm to silent readers who are already going through difficult mental health phases. Given the state of awareness in our country, even such nonsensical comments can have a bad impact.

What happens is that a few of us end up replying to counter the points made. I’m sure we try to ignore it a few times and respond when it becomes unbearable at a certain point. One can always say “don’t feed the trolls, ignore them”, and that has its merits. But in this case someone has to step in because this person sometimes attacks people directly, at which point ignoring him is not a good choice. It is not pleasant for anyone to have to respond to him, but sometimes a response is necessary. If we had some moderation for this kind of stuff, this problem would be solved.

This harms not just the people the comments are directed at (though even that should be reason enough), but the peace of mind of everyone else as a whole. And that’s just speaking of mental health. The caste-baiting is a whole other issue. He brings up caste and reservation out of nowhere in a provocative manner. Surely in a country where we have laws punishing very similar utterances we need to be more careful and strict about such things. 

I am saying this because I care deeply about the wonderful people here. There are great users making a lot of valuable contribution - and some are being driven away by this kind of nonsense. If it were some ideological disagreement I would understand, but to lose the support system that forum, is just for the sake of such childish unnecessary comments, would be very sad. No one deserves to be mocked for sharing their stories, and no one deserves to have to waste their time and energy arguing with a troll. I am not asking for this just because I find it personally disagreeable, but because I think it is harming the whole of forum and its forumness.


What according to you should be the moderation policy? Right now when enough number of users report a comment, the profile gets banned. The ban is progressive in nature . Read here

https://support.forumias.com/how-do-you-suspend-accounts-on-forumias-community/

For some reason, 10 people have not reported the comments, even if more number of people have reported it.

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Everyone, how about we share the things that make the days we feel down, a little bit better? 

WHAT DO YOU GUYS DO TO CHEER UP WHEN YOU FEEL SAD?

Can you not start a poll and discussion thread with that, and I can announce it?

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All these meditation tips are making me want to try it out for earnest. Is there some set time you guys would recommend I start with? Do you meditate when you feel overwhelmed, or is it built into your daily routine? Do you do it on an “as and when” basis or do you do it daily?

Early in the morning before coffee or late in the night right before sleep works well for me. You may want to try and see how it goes for you. 

Not promoting but app called headspace helped me. Try kar sakte ho. First 10 session free deta hai. 

Could you please walk us through the app? I got its subscription in the Times Prime package, but I couldn't understand the app properly. 

Not sure if qualified to do that. I use the free version only by recycling basic free sessions. Let me try. It has recorded audios under 4 categories:

i) Meditation- Guided sessions where you can choose between male/female voice and how long you want to meditate (3-20 minutes).

ii) Sleep- Soothing sounds for sleeping like rains, bird chirps and stories. 

iii) Move- Workout videos like yoga, cardio and stretching.

iv) Focus- Motivational/mood elevating kinda stuff and even some of Zimmer's tracks. 

Thank you. I'll try these.

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In a different life, I used to practice heartfulness meditation daily. It would be after my morning study session of three hours or so. Around 7:00-7:30. Amma has a small garden on the terrace. So, I would sit there and meditate for ten minutes. Initially, I used to do the guided meditation sessions (master class option) in this app called Heartsapp. Once I got the hang of it, I used to do them without the guidance. I would breathe in the air and felt how every breath liberated me from my pain. I felt really close to myself and to nature. I felt at peace. I would stop when I got into that mind space that I was familiar with. I would catch myself involuntarily smiling and truly at peace. Eventually, I fell out of the habit. I’ve been trying to get back into that bubble of mine again, but it has been eluding me. It will come back with real time and real effort, I suppose. I miss feeling the way that I used to. 
chamomile,sjerngaland1 otherslike this
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Also, just a reminder that even though way too many people, including me, swear by meditation, it doesn’t have to work for you. And that’s okay. :)
MaeveWiley,THE_MECHANIC
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